Sometimes Things Happen, But Not the Way You Want Them to.

Is Dating Really this Hard?

Published on October 26, 2005 By Kaulani In Writing

All young girls dream of the day that they will be asked on their first date, of when they get engaged, of their wedding day, and of the day that they look on the face of their newborn children. What young girl ever thinks of the struggles to get there?

All I have ever wanted was to get a boyfriend. I knew it was hard, but I never expected it to happen like this. A guy that I have been friends with for almost four years now said something about me going on a date with him. We were talking last friday ( October 21, 2005) and I told him that he had no chance with my best friend. That is because she is now engaged, which that is for another day. He said to me, " I dont care if I don't have a chance with her, I want to take you on a date." I just laughed at him at first, and then I thought and I said, " Were you being serious or were you just playing around." " Im not kidding, we should seriously hang out sometime."

Ever since then he has not really talked to me, and I fear that he just said that and did not think about it before he said it. Why is the most important part of human life so much harder than the rest of life? I am 17 and I have never been kissed or even had a guy hold my hand. I don't even have my best friend there to help me through this either, because she is to busy making her "fiance" happy. So I have to deal with this all alone, because my family has so much going on. I just wish that him saying that would not have freaked him out, I would be perfectly happy to go back to just being friends. But can you really just go back to perfectly normal after that?

Comments

new-age nomad

on Nov 23, 2005

No, you can't go back to being perfectly "normal" after that. But whoever said that "normal" was a good thing?

I'm sorry you have no one there to love on you; U know if I wuz there I'd tear it up!

...sorry, I just really cracked myself up there.

And babe, I want you to learn this now: The hardest things in life are the BEST, and the right decisions are usually the HARDEST.

I love you more than you know, and understand you more than you think.

Trinitie

anonymous

on Jan 11, 2006

I think that Trinitie is right, "The hardest things in life are the BEST, and the right decisions are usually the HARDEST", but what about your family. Just cause they have too much going on doesn't mean that they don't have your best interests at heart and don't worry about you. Maybe you should talk to one of your family members, the one that you are closest to, he/she will probably listen and care, and maybe even understand. Family is supposed to be there, people you can lean on. It doesn't sound like you are letting them be there to lean on, it sounds like you are copping out from sharing your frustrations with those who love you most. Just a thought.

Kaulani

on Jan 12, 2006

Anonymous you are right, but when I do try to talk to that person alot of times they just ignore me. Lately that person has been to rapped up with other things to listen. Also, just because my uncle that they are not liking right now is going to try and come to my birthday party they said that they are probably going to leave because they dont like him. That makes me feel pretty bad because that is the only person that I have had since my parents left me, and now they dont want to be there because of one person. That sounds like copping out to me.
Aloha

August

on Jan 13, 2006

Elaina,
I am not talking to our Uncle because of the shit he has pulled with all of this crap going on. If I have ever ignored you, you have to let me know, because I am sure that I didn't do it on purpose. I won't leave your party if he comes, and it's not really copping out, just not wanting to deal with more stress or awkward situations. I love you, and I'm sorry if I have made myself scarce, because that was never my plan. Whatever, whenever, you need to talk, let me know, and I will try to devote all of my attention to your stress. I never have too much going on for my best sis. Just let me know what you need and I will do my best. However, I missed out on the whole nurturing side of my motherly instincts, but I will try not to just say "suck it up". lol.
Trin: I love your comment. Your are really something. lol. I miss you!
Love ya!
Augie

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